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Book Review: “Unconditional Parenting” by Alfie Kohn. I often recommended to parents an article by Alfie Kohn called “5 Reasons to Stop Saying Good. Unconditional Parenting has ratings and reviews. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by. 54 quotes from Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason: ‘Even before i had children, I knew that being a parent w.

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When that happens, they can accept themselves as fundamentally good people, even when they screw up or fall short. I’m excited to read more of Kohn’s books, especially about education.

So, in order to erase any doubts, we do the same things to our own children that our parents did to us. May 06, Christine Cavalier rated it it alfoe ok Shelves: But with the mountains of research backing it up, and the measured way that Kohn presents it, any reasonable person would have to accept this as a significant step in the right direction away from the punishments and rewards that come with the mainstream parenting style centered around behavior control.

Unconditional Parenting Quotes

The bottom line is that raising unconxitional is not for whimps. He has a good point – there’s clearly no one-size-fits-all solution for parenting. There is much to say about this book, but I will sum up: I love those pictures!

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Unconditional Parenting Quotes by Alfie Kohn

Basically this book wants children to learn the intrinsic internal rewards. Don’t be in a hurry when we are rushing or in public we tend to be parentkng controlling and coercive The Child’s Perspective We want them to ask “How will doing x padenting that other kid feel? Learning how to mitigate the grocery aisles when you’re miserable is training for mitigating the freeways and the rat race. Parenying parenting and conditional self-esteem are not just unhealthy, they are unproductive.

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How to do it right. Not for parents of a 3yo. I went through a period of time where I read a million and one parenting books. They don’t see their relationship with their children as adversarial, so their goal is to avoid battles, not win them.

The more undonditional people are rewarded for doing something, the more likely they are to lose interest in whatever they had to do to get the reward. Aug 23, Eric rated it it unconditionzl amazing Shelves: Ask yourself, if the comment I just made had been made to me– would I feel unconditionally loved?

The child comes to see their “whole self” as good only when they please the parent. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments including “time-outs”rewards including positive reinforcementand other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us.

It was almost iconoclastic in its stance towards many popular parenting techniques, which isn’t always a good thing, but the author’s logic, conclusions, and recommendations all backed up by research are rather persuasive.

And that problem is what parents — probably every parent who reads this book — is seeking. Yes, the Ideal Parenting Rulebook dictates that parents should love their children more than themselves, more than anyone or anything else on the planet. This podcast was recommended to me by my therapist. If there are some important battles on the line, or even if I’m flat out of patience, I win the battle.


When I find a book that I like better on this, I’ll add it. Kohn thinks kids have more ability to reason at earlier stages than I do.

The reason, however, is not to silence the child or “extinguish the behavior,” in the soulless language of behaviorists. I will This was an amazing book.

35: Happy Kids, Better Relationship: Unconditional Parenting with Alfie Kohn

How and Why to Forgive with Fred Luskin I subscribed to this podcast while I was trying to fix my broken marriage, but only really started listening during my divorce. Along with Kohn’s pedantic writing style is a disturbing lack of cited research to back up his wide statements about the effects of certain parenting solutions.

More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. Grades lead students to pick the easiest possible assignment when they’re given a choice.